I wake up early morning to an updated Facebook newsfeed. It is amazing how useless, yet gripping this monster is. I keep smirking at some of the senseless stuff that gets shared and shake my head at all the opinions people have and think it necessary to make public. And then I found this gem [LINK] shared by someone on how Karva Chauth is all about suppressing the female counterpart in a relationship.
Now the writer, who, apparently has been married for 25 years believes she has all the right in the world to speak condescendingly to women who fast for their husband's health. While I understand her sentiment about being looked down by the mohalla wala aunties, her little quip towards the end of the article, about it being a "personal choice" doesn't really sound genuine. I know she is judging you for going hungry all day long.
Now in all this discussion over empowering women, people tend to forget one simple fact. That men and women, sometimes, when they care for each other, like to express their love by doing simple, silly things which may not mean much to you and me, but mean a lot to them. When you start telling someone their partner is trying to suppress them by making them fast (which, by the way, could be a choice the woman makes, with no encouragement from her partner), you fail to see that there is a human emotion behind all this which does not involve either party thinking, "I have to win this fight."
Every woman does not wake up in the morning hating every man in her life and with a mission to prove she is stronger or smarter than they are. And every man does not spend an entire day trying to figure out new ways of suppressing the women in his life. They both have, hopefully, nicer and happier things to think about and more pressing matters that require their attention. While I also understand that there are cases where some women are forced into it against their choice, I would not like to trivialise that issue by telling every woman who fasts that she is weak and meek for doing something she believes in or wants to do. I (genuinely) believe it is a personal choice and should not be commented on, especially not in such a patronizing manner.
Having said that, ladies who fasted, I hope you had a grand day getting pampered by someone who loves you. Even if it is just a man. (And before the feminist nazi bursts out, take a moment to realise that the pampering happens two ways in relationships. So don't be telling me "why does she need a man to pamper her?")
Time for work,
Naina
P.S. I just read the subtitle of the shared article: "It's nothing but a personification of a foolish woman who blindly does what custom dictates." Way to go, you just called the women you are trying to empower foolish in the title of an article, how are you different from the men you so hate in your head?
Now the writer, who, apparently has been married for 25 years believes she has all the right in the world to speak condescendingly to women who fast for their husband's health. While I understand her sentiment about being looked down by the mohalla wala aunties, her little quip towards the end of the article, about it being a "personal choice" doesn't really sound genuine. I know she is judging you for going hungry all day long.
Now in all this discussion over empowering women, people tend to forget one simple fact. That men and women, sometimes, when they care for each other, like to express their love by doing simple, silly things which may not mean much to you and me, but mean a lot to them. When you start telling someone their partner is trying to suppress them by making them fast (which, by the way, could be a choice the woman makes, with no encouragement from her partner), you fail to see that there is a human emotion behind all this which does not involve either party thinking, "I have to win this fight."
Every woman does not wake up in the morning hating every man in her life and with a mission to prove she is stronger or smarter than they are. And every man does not spend an entire day trying to figure out new ways of suppressing the women in his life. They both have, hopefully, nicer and happier things to think about and more pressing matters that require their attention. While I also understand that there are cases where some women are forced into it against their choice, I would not like to trivialise that issue by telling every woman who fasts that she is weak and meek for doing something she believes in or wants to do. I (genuinely) believe it is a personal choice and should not be commented on, especially not in such a patronizing manner.
Having said that, ladies who fasted, I hope you had a grand day getting pampered by someone who loves you. Even if it is just a man. (And before the feminist nazi bursts out, take a moment to realise that the pampering happens two ways in relationships. So don't be telling me "why does she need a man to pamper her?")
Time for work,
Naina
P.S. I just read the subtitle of the shared article: "It's nothing but a personification of a foolish woman who blindly does what custom dictates." Way to go, you just called the women you are trying to empower foolish in the title of an article, how are you different from the men you so hate in your head?